So I Asked... Nat Sang What She's Not Waiting For Anymore

On confidence, reinvention, and refusing to wait for the right time

A new interview series here at 40 and Giving Zero F’s

One of my favorite things about writing on Substack is meeting interesting women with perspectives worth sharing.

So I Asked... is a series that brings those conversations to all of us. And for the first installment, I wanted to start with someone whose perspective I genuinely admire.

Nat Sang, author of The Midlife Reset, and I met through Substack, but what struck me immediately was that she doesn’t seem particularly interested in waiting until she feels ready. After a corporate layoff upended her career, she started building something new—sharing honest reflections on reinvention, purpose, relationships, and life in your 50s. While many of us spend time waiting for the right moment, Nat seems to have made a habit of stepping toward things that scare her a little. Whether she’s writing, building a business, or reimagining what’s possible in midlife, she consistently chooses growth over comfort.

That made her the perfect person to ask about confidence, purpose, reinvention, and what comes next.

What are you not waiting for anymore?

I’m no longer waiting for the “right time” to do something. It may sound reckless, but for me, I’ve learned that it’s an excuse I use to avoid leaving my comfort zone. Waiting to feel comfortable or ready is the surest way to remain stuck.

What feels easier right now than it used to be?

I’m much more comfortable being myself now. Six months of opening myself up to complete strangers has given me the confidence to embrace life in many ways. This means saying no to the things I don’t want to do, or that bring me no joy, and saying yes to the things that scare me a little but push me to grow.

Where are you taking up more space lately—even if it still feels a little uncomfortable?
Creating written content is my primary passion. This involves editing my novel, writing and growing my Substack, and developing my 7-R Reset™ Method. I also really love doing podcasts and live guest interviews. Every single one of these things exists outside my comfort zone, but I enjoy the challenge.

What’s actually worth your time and energy right now—and what’s not?
I focus on the positive aspects of things, regardless of what they are. My main focus these days is building the second half of my life the way I want to live it. I’m really interested in creating something that gives me purpose, leaves me fulfilled, and helps others. Focusing on staying healthy, both mentally and physically, are key elements. Everything else falls into place. I don’t have the energy to look back and dwell on the past, specifically the layoff. I still get calls almost daily telling me it was unfair, etc., but I’ve moved on.

What’s something you want more of right now—and aren’t apologizing for?
I want to embrace female empowerment in ALL aspects. This means wearing the dress, cooking the meal, and being the girly girl. I refuse to let my grays come in, and I’m going to spend the time fighting gravity. Some days, I want to embrace the 1950s Grace Kelly/Betty Draper version of a woman. Other days, I continue to be a badass entrepreneur aspiring to build an empire. No apologies for either version, because the best version of me is a combination of both.

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What stood out to me across all of Nat’s answers was a refusal to wait.

Not waiting for the right time.
Not waiting to feel ready.
Not waiting for permission to reinvent herself.
Not waiting for someone else to define what a fulfilled life should look like.

As someone who has written more than once about not putting your life on hold, that message hit home.

You can find Nat at The Midlife Reset, where she writes about reinvention, relationships, purpose, and building the next chapter on your own terms.

And if there’s someone you’d love to see featured in a future installment of So I Asked..., let me know in the comments.